What is the difference between attachment, love, peace, and happiness
Attachment can be defined as a warm bond that forms between one person and another. This
bonding ties the two together in space and continues over time. Attachment to something or
someone that is positive for us, up to the point of being able to let go when we should, is
healthy. But if we don’t find a balance in the way we’re attached, it may turn into dependency,
and go further into obsession, which is damaging.
Love can be defined as an essential element of a person’s experience, which can include a
sense of affection, an attraction, self-sacrifice, and a sense of connection to nature, other living
things, other humans, and ultimately to some superior being. A true sense of love is essential in
the process of self-identification. We need to connect to our surrounding to be able to grow and
experience life to its fullest.
Peace is achieved when an individual’s different elements are in harmony with each other, when
a person is aware and the master of her own emotions, thoughts, and behaviors; and feels and
accepts them as they come, and the person is aware of her state of being and her moments.
This is a very personal experience, which can only be realized through a person’s knowledge of
self and the components of her identity. This experience cannot be achieved by imitation,
because something that works for someone else does not necessarily mean that it will work for
another. We can learn from other people’s experiences but we cannot copy what works for
another. We have to find our own unique path to peace. It is essential to gather new reliable
sources of information and to stimulate our mind. But we need to mold this knowledge to our own
situations, strengths, weaknesses, and potentials. We need to practice with our knowledge or it
is just a series of words. Peace can also be defined as the absence of hostilities, negative
thoughts, and ongoing damaging emotions. It is an internal experience not an external one.
Happiness is an emotional state defined as a feeling of satisfaction. Happiness can also be
defined as peace in its purest form. A true state of happiness is again a personal matter. The
opposite side of happiness is unhappiness, but they are not separate entities; they are different
areas of the same spectrum. They feel, however, quiet different. In psychology, a definition of
happiness focuses on three areas: feeling good, having positive thoughts toward life, and not
feeling bad. It is a general sense of satisfaction and looking forward to what is yet to come. In
this view, there is no specific definition of happiness. It seems to be related to both quantity and
quality of life, which are very personal determinations. Too many people look for quantity to feel
happy and respond quickly to their impulses to have a temporarily sense of satisfaction which
they identify as happiness. But looking to find happiness through sense stimulation would
usually lead to temporarily satisfactions which may leave the person wanting to gain more to feel
the same or even less. Sometime chasing this type of happiness has costs that outweighs the
benefit and if we are unaware then it only makes the whole process ongoing and repeating itself.
We may end up feeling like chasing our own tail. The person may invest a long time gaining
something for a relatively short feeling of happiness. Besides that looking for a true sense of
happiness through outside world can be overwhelming and confusing since there is so much.
Learning to aim higher to what is an ideal situation for our soul but being content of each stage
is the key to a sense of true inner joy. But again, it goes back to the fact that until we do not
learn who we are, we cannot know what makes us happy and how to achieve it. We may imitate
what we feel is making others happy but that is usually not the answer for us.
As mentioned before, there are principles in life that one needs to be aware of and follow. We
need to build a solid ground based on well-informed moral values and more from there. But the
ground should not glue us to itself, we should be able to walk forward once it is build.
The point of having something is having it in balance and knowing how to use it. For example,
as children, we need to have attachments to our surroundings because we can’t survive on our
own. This sense of attachment should diminish as we grow older and be replaced by more
independence. This sense of independence is essential to the formation of a healthy identity
and then healthy connections. If attachments stay with us for too long, they turn into anxious
attachments which are not useful for our growth. The healthier this process of maturation, the
more capable of loving we will be, where there is no more attachment then there is the possibility
of experiencing true love. And it will be a love that comes from freedom which leads one to
feelings of peace and inner joy not insecurity and neediness.
Author: Roya R. Rad, MA, PsyD
Copyright@SelfKnowledgeBase.com
Attachment can be defined as a warm bond that forms between one person and another. This
bonding ties the two together in space and continues over time. Attachment to something or
someone that is positive for us, up to the point of being able to let go when we should, is
healthy. But if we don’t find a balance in the way we’re attached, it may turn into dependency,
and go further into obsession, which is damaging.
Love can be defined as an essential element of a person’s experience, which can include a
sense of affection, an attraction, self-sacrifice, and a sense of connection to nature, other living
things, other humans, and ultimately to some superior being. A true sense of love is essential in
the process of self-identification. We need to connect to our surrounding to be able to grow and
experience life to its fullest.
Peace is achieved when an individual’s different elements are in harmony with each other, when
a person is aware and the master of her own emotions, thoughts, and behaviors; and feels and
accepts them as they come, and the person is aware of her state of being and her moments.
This is a very personal experience, which can only be realized through a person’s knowledge of
self and the components of her identity. This experience cannot be achieved by imitation,
because something that works for someone else does not necessarily mean that it will work for
another. We can learn from other people’s experiences but we cannot copy what works for
another. We have to find our own unique path to peace. It is essential to gather new reliable
sources of information and to stimulate our mind. But we need to mold this knowledge to our own
situations, strengths, weaknesses, and potentials. We need to practice with our knowledge or it
is just a series of words. Peace can also be defined as the absence of hostilities, negative
thoughts, and ongoing damaging emotions. It is an internal experience not an external one.
Happiness is an emotional state defined as a feeling of satisfaction. Happiness can also be
defined as peace in its purest form. A true state of happiness is again a personal matter. The
opposite side of happiness is unhappiness, but they are not separate entities; they are different
areas of the same spectrum. They feel, however, quiet different. In psychology, a definition of
happiness focuses on three areas: feeling good, having positive thoughts toward life, and not
feeling bad. It is a general sense of satisfaction and looking forward to what is yet to come. In
this view, there is no specific definition of happiness. It seems to be related to both quantity and
quality of life, which are very personal determinations. Too many people look for quantity to feel
happy and respond quickly to their impulses to have a temporarily sense of satisfaction which
they identify as happiness. But looking to find happiness through sense stimulation would
usually lead to temporarily satisfactions which may leave the person wanting to gain more to feel
the same or even less. Sometime chasing this type of happiness has costs that outweighs the
benefit and if we are unaware then it only makes the whole process ongoing and repeating itself.
We may end up feeling like chasing our own tail. The person may invest a long time gaining
something for a relatively short feeling of happiness. Besides that looking for a true sense of
happiness through outside world can be overwhelming and confusing since there is so much.
Learning to aim higher to what is an ideal situation for our soul but being content of each stage
is the key to a sense of true inner joy. But again, it goes back to the fact that until we do not
learn who we are, we cannot know what makes us happy and how to achieve it. We may imitate
what we feel is making others happy but that is usually not the answer for us.
As mentioned before, there are principles in life that one needs to be aware of and follow. We
need to build a solid ground based on well-informed moral values and more from there. But the
ground should not glue us to itself, we should be able to walk forward once it is build.
The point of having something is having it in balance and knowing how to use it. For example,
as children, we need to have attachments to our surroundings because we can’t survive on our
own. This sense of attachment should diminish as we grow older and be replaced by more
independence. This sense of independence is essential to the formation of a healthy identity
and then healthy connections. If attachments stay with us for too long, they turn into anxious
attachments which are not useful for our growth. The healthier this process of maturation, the
more capable of loving we will be, where there is no more attachment then there is the possibility
of experiencing true love. And it will be a love that comes from freedom which leads one to
feelings of peace and inner joy not insecurity and neediness.
Author: Roya R. Rad, MA, PsyD
Copyright@SelfKnowledgeBase.com
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